Do Your Actions Match Your Insides?

Posted by on Jul 13, 2015 | 2 Comments

It was a day I’ll never forget.  During my morning “zen time” I had been reading Nathaniel Brandon”s, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (I think it was around 2003, when I was living in Seattle – definitely before my kiddo was born, as there hasn’t been much “zen” since).   Having just finished a chapter about the “Practice […]

Does Stuff Happen to You?

Posted by on Jul 6, 2015 | 2 Comments

Yesterday I received an email from a potential business colleague profusely apologizing for having to reschedule our call.  Her child was sick, her normal sitter out of town, and she was home beating herself up for not being available. Last week there was a time-zone snafu with another call I had scheduled and the guy […]

Adios, Mr. Ego!

Posted by on Jun 1, 2015 | No Comments

As my son’s fourth grade year comes to a close, I sit bewildered at the passage of time.  Wasn’t it just yesterday that he was Davy Crockett?  I smile, thinking back… “To be honest, mom” said my then-third-grader, from the back seat of the car, “I’m not crazy about the book we’re reading aloud. It’s Davy […]

What’s Your Mess to Own?

Posted by on May 26, 2015 | One Comment

We don’t like to deal with the mess of our mistakes. We want to move on, but people remember.

Put Your Weapon Down!

Posted by on May 18, 2015 | No Comments

How a question is received, stems from our individual experiences. And once emotional triggers start going off, it becomes a full-scale emotional battlefield in which there are no winners.

Commitment Without Guarantees

Posted by on Apr 20, 2015 | 4 Comments

Last week I had the privilege of teaching Authentic Influence for SMU’s Certificate of Leadership program, and it brought back my previous experience teaching there, after which I was reminded of a huge lesson. While the session is only three hours long, the last time I taught there I was wiped.  Even though the group responded quickly when I asked questions, with […]

Who’s Your Anti-Busy-Buddy?

Posted by on Apr 6, 2015 | No Comments

“I wish I could” she said,  “I never have time for lunch.  It’s crazy-busy here.  Always.” “Oh I hear ya!  This is the first time I’ve come up for air in weeks!” I replied, feeling like I had to somehow justify the unfilled gap in my day. As a culture we wear our overwhelm like […]

Do You Trust Yourself?

Posted by on Apr 1, 2015 | 4 Comments

She stood up there, poised and professional.  Her impressive background, the ivy league schools and a fancy title with a Fortune 500, seemed to go with the expensive pantsuit she was wearing – like Garanimals, everything matched (did I just date myself?).  Her presentation was articulate and well constructed – very controlled – with just […]

You’re Not a Fix-it Project

Posted by on Mar 30, 2015 | 4 Comments

It’s so interesting to me how our perceptions of ourselves are often so far out of synch with how the world perceives us to be.  I know you can probably think of a few folks running about with an inflated opinion of themselves, but in my experience, the vast majority of us are so focused […]

How Confident Are You?

Posted by on Mar 16, 2015 | 3 Comments

Awhile back, this Douglas MacArthur quote started making the rounds on Facebook and it triggered some reflection. “A true leader has the confidence to stand alone, the courage to make tough decisions, and the compassion to listen to the needs of others.  He does not set out to be a leader, but becomes one through […]