Bridging Courage

Posted by on Nov 16, 2015 | 2 Comments


When I was growing up we lived about 10 miles out town (I was a country mouse) and I rode my bike everywhere.  I thought nothing of pedaling the 7 miles each way to my best friend’s house to hang out, when her family moved closer to town.  I did what a kid had to do to get around.

When I went to college I hauled my bike from Montana to Arizona, zipping around campus and through Tucson’s neighborhoods like a message girl on a mission.  I was fearless.

Somewhere along my vagabond journey, my bike was sold when I went off to do summer theatre, and that was the end of the simple cycling days of my youth.

Fast forward.  Years.  Lots of them.

I meet this guy who loves to cycle.  We date.  Get married.  He does all of these long-distance bike rides.  I smile and wave, like a good cheerleader.  You go!

Six years into our relationship he talks me into buying a bike.  I discover that the old saying “It’s just like riding a bike” is hooey.  Getting back on a bike after all that time was not as easy as I thought it would be.  I rode twice, terrified for my life (and I tend to be a bit of a potty-mouth when I get really scared).  It wasn’t pretty.

Soon after, I found out I was going to be a mom in 8 months and did a little dance inside my head because all the books told me that riding a bike while pregnant wasn’t a good idea.  “Sorry, Honey!”

Fast forward again.

Our kiddo is four years old.  Cycling-dad buys one of those fancy trailers that hooks on the back of his bike so the two of them can ride tandem.  He dusts off my bike and pumps the tires.  We’re going on our first “family-bike-ride” and I’m petrified but I don’t want my son to know.  With a four-year-old in tow I can no longer justify using bad language to cope with my stress, so I’m white-knuckling it through the neighborhood.  Like a granny.  I’m mortified by myself.

They gleefully pass me, my son Jeremy with a huge grin on his face, loving every minute of it.  I plaster on a smile and continue along behind them.  Swearing internally.  What happened to me??!

They’re a few paces ahead when my little boy, with his flame-painted-helmet and big green eyes, turns around and earnestly says in his little-boy-voice, “Believe in yourself!  Believe in yourself, mommy!”

It’s a moment frozen in time.

We’ve since been on hundreds of family-bike-rides and I now remember what I loved so much about riding “back in the day”.  The feeling of freedom!  Celebrating the outdoors!  Being together and having fun!  It’s awesome.  But getting back to experiencing the awesomeness of bike riding took something.  I had to push through my own road blocks to get to the good stuff.

I’ve tapped into that memory more times than I can count.  When I’m feeling unsure.  When I’m holding myself back.  When I need to overcome my own self-doubt.  I hear that sweet little voice in my head, “Believe in yourself, mommy!”

Nelson Mandela spoke of courage as not being an absence of fear, but rather the triumph over fear.  And what I’ve come to learn, after having the privilege of working with thousands of leaders whilst working on myself, is that we’re all far more capable and resilient than we know.  We just need a little voice to bridge our courage when we’re not feeling it.

We’re all far more capable than we know.  We just need someone to bridge our courage when we’re not feeling it.

As a leader, you can be that bridge for others – making it possible for them to move through their fears and into their courage.  Because it’s there, our bravery.  Sometimes we just need a reminder.

©OnStage Leadership, 2015

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  1. Chuck Mencke
    November 21, 2015

    Thank you Kimberly for the coolumn that “I” needed at this particular time in my life. I don’t know if you’ve been following my ordeal on FB, but Im writing this from the hospital, the 3rd time and 3rd surgery in so many weeks. During the last 3 weeks I’ve hhad some very low ebbs where totaly frustration set in and I lost all believe in myself, especailly as a leader. This weekend is our D25 FAll Conference and I have been beating myself up that I have failed the members as a leader since I am not there as a cheerleader, coach and mentor. After reading your column and messages I’ve received, even with this minor setback, they believe in me and I must believe in myself and noot doubt my abilities to continue to change lives and inspire. You and several others have helped pull me out of the valley and back up to the mountaintop. Thank you for your continued inspiration ad leadership tips!

  2. Kimberly
    November 21, 2015

    Oh Chuck, I’m so grateful that I’ve been able to help in some small way. You astound me. I have been following your hospital adventures, and you never cease to amaze me how you find a way to be a positive light, even in the face of difficult times. We all have so much to learn from you! I know it’s got to be so difficult not being at the conference, but I also know your D25 family, as that’s how we met! They know that you are there and cheering them on and the fact that it is so painful to be away from them just shows what an invested and caring leader you are!

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