Enhancing Your Sense of Control

Posted by on Apr 30, 2014 | 2 Comments

Yesterday, about 9:30am, I had settled into my work-rhythm when all of the sudden my entire computer froze.  Nothing was happening.  I forced a shutdown, made myself a cup of tea, and rebooted the darn thing.  All was going as expected until I went to open Outlook…some strange message telling me to “rebuild (my) database” […]

Are You the Person They Think You Are?

Posted by on Apr 29, 2014 | 3 Comments

Have you ever met someone who was totally different than you thought they’d be?  Maybe you’d known them in a past-life, like back in high school, many, many moons ago.  Maybe you’d known them in a different context, like you had worked together and now you’re seeing them socially for the first time.  Maybe you […]

The Purpose of Life

Posted by on Apr 28, 2014 | No Comments

“To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.” Last night my little family of three sat down together to watch the new release of The Secret Life of Walter Mitty and, while it was met […]

Commitment Without Guarantees

Posted by on Apr 23, 2014 | One Comment

Last night I had the privilege of teaching Authentic Influence for SMU’s Certificate of Leadership program, and while the session is only three hours long, at the end I was wiped.  While the group responded quickly when I asked questions, with very thoughtful answers,  they were much quieter than I had anticipated.   After reading all […]

Redefining Power

Posted by on Apr 22, 2014 | No Comments

I heard the most horrible leadership story the other day and, quite frankly, it made me very sad.  As a subject matter expert, a friend of mine was invited to lead a session for a Fortune 500 Company.  It was a large group so they divided it into two – with a group of 30 […]

The Magic Key for Success

Posted by on Apr 21, 2014 | No Comments

Have you ever had one of those days when you’ve worked really hard and have given it all you’ve got, and you’re left totally wiped out but happy? My hope for all of us is that we have more days like this.  Days that leave us realizing that the “good life” is about investing your […]

So Right it Hurts

Posted by on Apr 16, 2014 | One Comment

I woke up this morning to snow on my porch.  SNOW!  Apparently New York didn’t get the ‘it’s Spring” memo.  When I saw the snow I immediately felt grumpy and, after 2 or 3 minutes of pouting, I realized I have a choice.  I can choose to stay grumpy and let it ruin my mood […]

The Power of Focused Feedback

Posted by on Apr 15, 2014 | No Comments

You would think that by now we would have all developed amazing mind-reading skills, but that’s clearly not the case.  In order for us to really understand what someone wants and needs from us, we usually need it to be said out loud or we’ll assume all is good.  And for caring leaders this can […]

Your Internal Warning System

Posted by on Apr 14, 2014 | 5 Comments

Last Friday, as I was leaving one meeting and heading to the next, I ducked into Barnes and Noble for a quick respite (my feet were killing me as I had been a bit overly-ambitious with my city walking) when my husband called and asked me to run a quick errand for him.  It shouldn’t […]

Owning the Mess

Posted by on Apr 11, 2014 | 2 Comments

I was sitting on the train yesterday, heading into the city (that’s NYC, for those of you “not from around these parts”), when all of the sudden a gush of coffee started pouring down the aisle.  I looked ahead three rows and there was a coffee cup that had spilled that had been sitting on […]