Getting Present

Posted by on Dec 20, 2013 | 4 Comments

Me and my boys (thanks for the awesome picture!)

Today is the last day before my kiddo is home for holiday break.   My husband’s office is closed next week, so I get him home too.   And while I suspect I could squeeze in a few hours to blog each day, I’m going to put my writing on “pause” for a few days.

I talk a lot about how critical it is to be present in the work place.  Truly present.  And while I talk about it and teach it, I still find it’s something that I continue to struggle with in life.  Being present these days is hard.  It’s just that simple.

One of the things we talk about during OnStage is to think about how we’d like the situations in our lives to turn out before we enter into the situation.  When I think about the situation that is coming up with my family – being home on break – if I could choose how I’d like them to look back on our time together, what would I like them to remember?

Would I want them to remember me being frustrated or annoyed for interrupting me while I tried to get some work done?

Or would I want them to remember us laughing?  Remember feeling special?  Remember that we spent a wonderful few days before Christmas playing games, maybe making cookies or singing carols, or hangin’ on the couch in our jammies watching Elf?

These days are precious.  I must get present to that before I enter the situation.

We’ve all got so much going on.  We’re rushing around, pushing ourselves to meet deadlines, trying to get it all done so we can get home and have fun, darn it!  But I encourage all of us to stop for a minute.  To think about how we’d like the situations in our lives to unfold before we enter into them.  The situations at work.  The situations with our family.  Life’s situations.

For the memories we’re creating are happening in real time.  We don’t get to erase them and go back and fix it.

If you could choose, what would you like to happen?    Because you get to, you know.  Choose.

Get present to that.

And may that lead to an extraordinary holiday and memories that you and your family will cherish for years to come.

Happy holidays!

©OnStage Leadership, 2013;  Kimberly Davis is the Founder/Director of OnStage Leadership, a full-day experiential leadership workshop.  If you found this helpful, interesting, thought-provoking, or inspiring please “recommend”, “Like” and share.  It is only through your generosity that we can reach those who may find it valuable too.



  1. Terri
    December 20, 2013

    Thank you for all of your wonderful thoughts on your blog!! I hope you and your family have a wonderful Holiday!!!

  2. Kimberly
    December 20, 2013

    Thank you for your thoughtfulness, Terri! Happy holidays to you as well!

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