Will You Be There?

Posted by on Oct 29, 2013 | No Comments


I have a friend and colleague who always asks to get together.  Great guy.  Fun.  Interesting.  It’s always enjoyable to see him.  We eagerly schedule something.  Without fail, he either cancels or has to reschedule.  He routinely schedules other things during the time we’ve planned to meet.  It could be that he’s just disorganized.  It could be that he’s just super busy.  It could be that he’s balancing too many things.  It could be that he’s flaky.  It could be that he doesn’t value his time with me as much as he values his time with others.  It could be a lot of things.

It could be that I don’t want to schedule anything with him anymore.

It’s become a running joke.  “I’m meeting John Doe for XYZ….”

“Sure you are.  I’ll believe it when it happens!”

Truly a nice guy, my friend and colleague.  But I wouldn’t trust him any longer with anything important.  And my time is pretty important.

And anyone with whom I might connect or refer him is pretty important.

And any business I on which I might consider collaborating with him is pretty important.

There’s a lot that’s important, that I don’t trust him with now.  And that makes me sad.  Because he’s a great guy.

We make assumptions about people.  Thinking that “they’ll understand”.  And they do.  Quite often.  They’ll cut us a lot of slack.  But not forever.

From a leadership perspective this is huge.  I can’t tell you how many leaders don’t show up to the meetings they’ve scheduled or show up 20 minutes late.  When it happens once, everyone of course understands.  We’ve all been there!  The second time, they’re apologizing on your behalf because they know you’re so busy.  The third time…

Because we know.  We know that people make a point to be there when it’s important.  And if our relationships don’t make it through the filter-of-what’s-important, then we shouldn’t be surprised when we don’t either.

And we can’t get much done alone.

Will you be there?


©OnStage Leadership, 2013

Kimberly Davis is the Founder/Director of OnStage Leadership, a full-day experiential leadership workshop.  If you found this helpful, interesting, thought-provoking, or inspiring please “recommend”, “Like” and share.  It is only through your generosity that we can reach those who may find it valuable too.

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